Most of us parents, if not all…wants the BEST for our children. In the entirety of being a parent, have we ever questioned ourselves: Am I training my children to be what I want them to be? Or are these things that I want them to achieve are the very things God wants for their lives? As I read the scripture in Proverbs 22:6 that says “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.” the words “THE WAY HE SHOULD GO” struck me the most. I began to ask myself…How will I know if I am training up my child in the right way? I am pretty sure, all of us desire to be successful and victorious in our roles as parents despite the world’s mixed up system of family values.
We can have a certain level of training and expertise in performing our functions in different areas of careers and tasks assigned to us, but when it comes to being a parent, we don’t need a professional training or experience to excel in this field. A parent’s greatest responsibility is to teach and train their children. We cannot really have succedded anywhere else if we fail towards parenting. Parenthood can be a challenging adventure in developing and guiding our children to build a healthy relationship with their families, friends and most of all God.
I may not come from a perfect family, my parents may not have raised me into somebody that they or God wanted me to be, but my heart desires to help parents to look deeply into their dreams and aspirations for their children. Many verses from the Bible will be used in this article, it will serve as our guide in honing future adults live their lives according to God’s perfect plan and purpose for them.
GOD’S PERFECT PLAN
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
From the moment I knew God as my creator and Jesus Christ my saviour, I have tried my best to always put Him first, the very reason I placed this chapter on top. It is a “must” for us parents to talk to our children about God and its importance in their upbringing. It is essential that our children know that their lives are not accidental, their existence is meaningful and they have a PURPOSE.
It is a marvelous feeling when God blesses us with a little child in our homes. I delivered my first baby girl at home at the age of 19. Although me and my husband were not ready to be parents at that young age, we have mixed emotions of excitement, worries, fears, doubts but most of all joy and love. We knew from the moment we saw her, she is REAL! When a child comes into this world, God equipped him to mature into a unique person capable of thinking, reasoning and relating with other human beings. There should be a realization on our part that God is giving us the opportunity to bring out the BEST in each and every little angel’s life. From conception to birth to the very first months and years of a child, a parent influences him towards good and evil.
GOD has a plan for our lives including your child’s life. That plan is perfect since God is the supreme architect-engineer-designer of creation. Each and every single person MATTERS to Him.
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well. Ok
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
We may not fully comprehend all the reasons and circumstances why God chose us to parent the children given to us, one thing is for sure – He can never go wrong, He is perfect in all of His ways . We have to dig deeper on our Creator’s instructions and His principles of life and living. God provided us His manual to righteous, holy and dignified life—the BIBLE. “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.” (2 Timothy 3:16). We are the physical representation of what God, values, spirituality and love is all about. Afterall, parents who mentors their children about God is on the right track!
NO BAD CHILDREN—NO BAD PARENTS
Genesis 1:27 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.
Most of us have read, heard and believed in the concept that “we were all created in the image of God”, but a few of us have totally grasped the deep-seated significance of its meaning. The basis for the dignity and purpose of our life and work can be founded on the idea that we were made in God’s image, through this reflection we will be able to understand not only our significance and worth, but that of our children, too.
The above-mentioned verse is the underlying principle why I considered “No bad children-No bad parents” to be the title of this chapter. Our worth is attached to our Creator. If God is of great and immeasurable worth, then human beings made in his image must be of great value, too. The people we see and meet every day, even the children entrusted to us to whom we sometimes give little regard, are not ordinary in God’s eyes. Yes, there can be “bad relationships” between parents and their children despite the good intentions on both sides, but these conflicts can be avoided if we can find creative ways of dealing with our disagreements . As mom and dad, sometimes we concentrate solely on training, shaping and molding our young ones to become what we want them to be. We often notices the “negatives”–their flaws, their mistakes, their errors and label them as “BAD” or worse we may raise them as angry young rebels. Whether we admit it or not, we do this because we do not see the bigger picture of their uniqueness and the truth that there are no duplicates. They are the original. We cannot make them to be what they are not. Although our intentions are good, we cannot live our dreams through them. Let us learn to be sensitive to look, to listen and to learn what makes them different and help them to draw it out of them—being the best of their own masterpiece. Forcing them into something they cannot be, will cause them to label us as “bad” as well. Let us help them to believe in themselves, know their worth and perhaps in the near future they would be able to say to themselves: I am the “ONLY ME” that there has ever been and ever will be.
MORE TO COME SOON….